30 Lessons for Living by Karl Pillemer
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- Lessons for a happy marriage
- Marry someone a lot like you (particularly when it comes to core values).
- Friendship is as important as romantic love.
- Don't keep score.
- Talk to each other.
- If you are having trouble discussing something, get out of the house.
- Find a way to blow off steam, and then engage with your partner.
- Watch out for teasing.
- Let your partner have his or her say.
- Don't just commit to your partner—commit to marriage itself.
- Postscript: Don't go to bed angry.
- Lessons for a successful and fulfilling career
- Choose a career for the intrinsic rewards, not the financial ones.
- Don't give up on looking for a job that makes you happy.
- Make the most of a bad job.
- Emotional intelligence trumps every other kind.
- Everyone needs autonomy.
- Lessons for a lifetime of parenting
- It's all about time. Life really is short.
- It's normal to have favorites, but never show it.
- Don't hit your kids.
- Avoid a rift at all costs.
- See the potential rift early and defuse it.
- Act immediately after the rift occurs.
- When all else fails, it's the parent who usually needs to compromise.
- Take a lifelong view of relationships with children.
- Postscript: Abandon looking for perfection—in your children and in your parenting.
- Lessons for aging fearlessly and well
- Being old is much better than you think.
- Act now like you will need your body for a hundred years.
- Don't worry about dying—the "experts" don't.
- Stay connected to people.
- Take advantage of learning opportunities.
- Make a conscious goal of staying connected.
- Plan ahead about where you will live (and your parents, too).
- Postscript: Abandon the fight against aging. Denial is our own worst enemy.
- Lessons for living a life without regrets
- Always be honest.
- Say yes to opportunities.
- Travel more.
- Choose a mate with extreme care.
- Say it now. If you have something to say to someone, do it before it's too late.
- Lessons for living like an expert (Choose happiness)
- Time is of the essence.
- Happiness is a choice, not a condition.
- Time spent worrying is time wasted.
- Focus on the short term rather than the long term.
- Instead of worrying, prepare.
- Acceptance is an antidote to worry.
- Think small. Focus on the joys of everyday life.
- Have faith. If only because it's good for you.
- Postscript: Follow the Golden Rule—treat people the way you want to be treated.